Healing shame through prostate massage.
What is your relationship to your anus? This is a subject I had to explore myself in order to understand it better, the introspective lesson allowed me to discover my own hangups and negative relationship about an area I was very much ashamed of, based on my programing and belief system. During my training with Jason Tantra outside of San Diego, CA the module included anal massage, also known as prostate massage.
This energy healing approach addresses the prostate. it is done with a finger(s), non-stop breath work as I gently massage the inner walls of the rectum, reaching areas toys or the penis can’t reach. The intention is for the kundalini energy to travel up the seven chakras and bring the receiver to places of healing. As I looked around the room, most receivers were going through a very cathartic phase of their experience, some having a tuntrum they were not able to express in the past, while others were triggered by shame or trauma about bottoming. It broke my heart seeing a participant sobbing non-stop. For other guests, it was an opportunity to welcoming and embracing the feminine in them, finding pleasure while their prostate was being milked and surrendering to themselves more than anything.
As per my own experience, at first I was selfconscious and embarrassed to have such work done in a group setting, however, a few minutes into it I caught myself feeling in my own skin, very liberated, and somehow I discovered it was a turn-on to be in such position that went from making me feel vulnerable and exposed, to feeling sexy, playful and desireable although it was a non-sexual approach. There was a time when the energy brought me to a very happy mindset, all my hangups and reservations were dissolved. I started smiling non-stop, welcoming, embracing and surrendering to my own feminine energy brought me to places of desire I had been denying myself of. It was the first time I said to myself I LOVE TO BOTTOM AND I OWN IT!
During my work trips, offering this service in tandem with heart centered sacred intimacy, it is something ineffable to describe through any medium. It’s it simply something you have to give yourself permission to dive into and find out for yourself the pleasure and healthy benefits this ignored area has to offer. Every men I have worked on has transcended into a more wholesome person by balancing their feminine energy through anal massage.
All my sessions are very memorable, but there is one in particular when I was in Miami in 2023. As we were flowing through this process, he begun flowing with his energy organically, such a beautiful visual seeing him moving, moaning, being primal. The energy peaked and suddenly he is almost in a head stand position as I was massaging his anus. Gently I brought him back on the matrress, gave him to come back into his body and when he did he was like “did I almost do a headstand?” I said yes, and we both shared a good laugh as I closed our session slowly. Thank you “headstand guy” for trusting me with such sacred work.
My intention as a tantra healer is to educate as well as demystify tantra, how sacred, beautiful and meaningful a session with someone who is properly trained can be. The mindful approach of such somatic therapy is to rid of shame related to bottoming, stagnant energy we hold in our butthole, and to purge of any negative vibrations that are not serving the person well. At the same time it can take the receiver to a state of euphoria/enlightenment by going through a sex like experience during the anal massage, as i said earlier, tapping into areas the person has been avoiding. The energy may swing either way as it’s on a case by case, it is a passage of giving the person permission to welcome those sensors, reconnect, shift their narrative to a more positive one and relationship to their butt. Give your prostate the attention is deserves and have a breakthrough.
My advice to fully enjoy such a unique experience is to douche very well, if you are new to cleaning before bottoming then here is where your experience and awareness about the time consuming it can be to bottom starts. Douching well can be time consuming, so allow an hour or two prior to your session. Intentionally, give yourself permission and consent to surrender your ego represented as the overweight of your masculine energy, flow with any emotions that are begging to breath, be released and flow with your energy without holding back nor resisting. It is your experience and your are liable for the end result.
